Yuan Liang

What does forgiveness means? When do you ask for forgiveness? Have you ever asked for one? If yes, why did u ask for it?

1. Something you seek for when you know you're wrong, and you're sincerely sorry & therefore wish that when granted forvigeness, you can make things right/ make up for what you did wrong, and pretend as if nothing ever happened before.

2. Something you seek for when you know you're wrong. But you never feel entirely or sincerely sorry. You just need forgiveness from the other party so that when you're granted forgiveness, you won't feel bad anymore and can so-call move on. In other words, you seek forgiveness not because you really mean it. You just NEED it to feel LESS GUILTY and need not feel like & be reminded that you're  a WHORERIBBLE person.

3. Something you seek for KNOWING THAT YOU'RE WRONG and you're REALLY SINCERELY SORRY but you also ask to be forgiven so that you would feel LESS GUILTY and can move forward and not be trapped in the past anymore. You care for the other party, but you care for your feelings too. 

4. Something you seek for knowing you're wrong, and hope the other party WILL FEEL BETTER after you admit your wrongdoings, WITHOUT hoping that you can actually right what's wrong, because you know that it'll be impossible. But still, you would like to apologize and be forgiven because YOU KNOW YOU'RE WRONG and because you CARE how the other person feels all this time.

5. Something you ask for when you DON'T even know if you're right or wrong. You CARE, and you just want to make things good =)

Personally, i think that forgiving is an easy thing because as time passes, we no longer care about those bad experiences that happened, and we just go "BAH~" cause we know that it's not worth our tears, heartaches & time, thinking and dwelling in the past.

I mean, what& who is there to be forgiven, when we don't even care a shit anymore!

But if in your context forgiving =  being very generous to acknowledge what had happened and can let it go without resentment & you even wish that the other person will do great, then forgiving is no easy peasy at all.

This is not something some anybody can just do overnight. It takes a great person to overcome a great lie/wrongdoing and still be generous and great, without developing hate in the process. For people like this, i respect & salute!

Most of the time, i think that most people belongs in the #3 category. I am like that too sometimes. I know I'm wrong, and I'm sincerely sorry, so i apologize and ask to be forgiven so that i can jaga the other party's feelings and not to make myself feel less guilty/bad.

But now, the thing is, i don't know whether you're just putting up a show, or is sincere this time around? And, would it really make much difference if I choose to say "Yes" or "No"? I don't think it will.

Maybe you'll feel over the moon if i say I forgive you, and then you can go dance, party all night cause u no longer feel guilty. But deep down, you should know that forgive doesn't equal to forget. It's much easier to forgive than forget.

Let's say I forgive you already and i can treat you like a friend again now, it doesn't mean that I've forgotten what had taken place. It is forever still vivid in mind. I can never forget, because who am I today, is partly because what had taken place. Therefore, how can I forget yesterday that mould me into what I am today.

Just my 2 cents. XOXO